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5 Things You Should Never Do On A First Date

5 Things You Should Never Do On A First Date

5 Things You Should Never Do On A First Date

No matter how old you are, first dates are always a complicated mix of excitement and nerves. What if they don’t like me? What if I have nothing to say? What if they don’t look like their pictures? The butterflies are almost inevitable and it’s not hard to see why: first impressions matter.

The secret to a great first date is making a good first impression – but how do you achieve that?

Start with these 5 tips and remember to trust your in-person chemistry and your level of attraction to the other person!

1 – Don’t Be Late

If you are a fan of old Hollywood movies, you might think that being fashionably late and “letting them wait for you” will make you seem hard to get. Well, let’s end this illusion – it’s just rude. Getting caught in a traffic jam, or having some unforeseen circumstances is one thing, but letting someone wait for you intentionally is just a major sign of disrespect. Treat your date the same way you want to be treated.

2 – Don’t Talk About Yourself The Entire Time

When you’re nervous, it’s easy to fall back on a subject you are intimately familiar with – yourself. However, talking about yourself the entire time doesn’t give you a chance to figure out if you even like the person you’re on a date with. Not only can you come off as an egomaniac, but you’re also missing out on learning about them. If your potential partner is an introvert, help them feel comfortable by asking some questions. Some potential topics to ask about are:

  • What do you do for work? How long have you been in that industry?
  • What was the last concert you went to?
  • What is your favorite food to eat?
  • Where was the last place you traveled? What did you like/dislike?

3 – Don’t Be Fake

Let’s face it: on a first date, we always try to put our best foot forward but don’t let yourself go overboard. You don’t have to pretend to be someone you aren’t because someone will like you exactly the way you are! Our flaws and quirks make us human, and are often some of the most endearing things about ourselves! Of course, this doesn’t mean you should spill all your dirty secrets on the first date, but be confident to display the real you!

4 – Don’t Keep Checking Your Phone

We know this is going to be hard, but try to leave your phone inside your purse/pocket while on the date. Taking non-urgent phone calls, constantly texting, scrolling through Instagram and Facebook, and checking email during a date is really disrespectful. It sends a pretty clear signal that you are not interested in the other person – whether that was your intention or not. Not a good look.

5 – Don’t Believe Stereotypes

“Don’t kiss on the first date”, “You can’t sleep with someone until the 3rd/5th/10th date” – we’ve all heard those first-date-stereotypes and it’s time to let them go! You’re a bad-ass, empowered, woman – do what feels right to you! Assuming you are both consenting adults, it’s about time to do whatever you damn-well-please and forget what everyone else thinks!

 

Finally, after avoiding these five things here is one that you absolutely MUST do: have fun! No matter how this date turns out, you will either have a new partner, or a hilarious story to share with your friends. It’s a win-win situation!

Vibrant Staff

The Vibrant Staff writers are a group of sex-positive women employed by Vibrant. Our contributors are passionate about advocacy, women's rights, relationships, and sharing their experiences with you!

Vibrant Staff

The Vibrant Staff writers are a group of sex-positive women employed by Vibrant. Our contributors are passionate about advocacy, women's rights, relationships, and sharing their experiences with you!

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