Buying sex toys can be a daunting experience due to the stigma our society has attached to bodies, sex, and pleasure, especially for non-binary individuals.
This difficulty can be compounded by the extremely *gendered language that is used to sell sex toys.
(*If you’re curious to learn more about creating gender inclusive language, take a look at our LGBQIAP+ Etiquette Guide and Glossary of Terms).
But for right now, let’s talk about sex toys for non-binary individuals, shall we?
To start, “for men,” “for women,” “for couples,” are staple sex toy categories and usually come with the assumption that the buyer is cisgender and heterosexual. Oh to be the happy straight couple shopping for sex toys together featured on many a sex toy website…
Assumptions aside, these labels tell us nothing about what these sex toys do and how they bring us pleasure. And they also reinforce the idea that you can’t enjoy sex (and in extension love and relationships) if your gender identity cannot fit neatly into a clickable binary box.
Thus non-binary individuals, including those who identify as transgender, are often not given the option to shop in an environment that’s affirming to their experience of self.
Luckily, more and more sex toy manufacturers and sex toy retailers (like Vibrant) are ditching this outdated marketing and are creating products and shopping experiences to please bodies rather than to conform to outdated gender norms.
Here are 5 fun toys and accessories that will bring the “oohs” regardless of your gender identity.
Giving your partner(s) a massage is a simple way to bring you closer together using only the touch of your hands. This gorgeous oil blends the delicious aromas of almond, coconut, and
jojoba to create a relaxing and sensual atmosphere. Turn the lights off and light a couple of candles for the perfect foreplay to get you in the mood.
Say hello to the clitoris’ new best friend! This baby is at the forefront of clitoral stimulation and can replicate the out-of-this-world feeling of oral sex thanks to its super realistic
suction-like vibrations. With eleven intensity settings, easy-to-hold design, and almost indiscernible sound – the Satisfyer will definitely satisfy your wildest dreams.
Everyone has a butt, meaning that everyone can enjoy the amazing feeling of this bedazzled butt plug! Made from smooth and safe silicone, this plug is easy to insert and to remove
thanks to its tapered end (with the help of lube of course). Not only will the Glams Mini Rainbow Plug gift you with that amazing feeling of fullness, it will make your butt look gorgeous and sparkly too!
Penis toys don’t get much better than this! The Pocket Pulse Remote is a super light stroker that can be used when the penis is flaccid or erect. Once the penis becomes erect, the two
tandem motors get to work ensuring that you can enjoy the pulsations hands-free. This toy is great for self-love action but gets extra sexy when the remote is used for some partner
#5 – Uberlube by Uberlube
Many sex advice articles rave about the benefits of lube but when was the last time you bought a new bottle? Uberlube is one of the best lubes out there as its silicone base gives
you that silky smooth feeling wherever it’s applied. Whether you prefer anal sex, vaginal sex or are in the mood for a session of self-love, this long lasting lube will keep you turned on
for hours at a time!