Masturbation is fun, free, and good for you! But many of us neglect this body friendly activity.
Let’s talk about some steps you can take to make pleasure a priority and get in touch with your masturbation!
#1 Making Time For Masturbation
Modern day life is hectic and there always seems to be an endless to-do list of things that need attention. Self-care often gets pushed to the back burner when other tasks seem more pressing or important.
It’s easy to forget that doing things that help you to feel good ARE important! Masturbation is a wonderful form of self-care. It lowers stress, increases health and positivity, and just feels good!
Since the never-ending to-do list can seem like a blockade to doing things for yourself, why not add masturbation to the list? Making time to indulge yourself is essential for well-being.
If that means you have to add it to your calendar, then pencil it in! Similar to sex with a partner, sometimes you have to MAKE the time or the ideal moment will never present itself.
Make a date on the calendar with yourself and enjoy some much deserved pleasure.
#2 Setting the Mood to Masturbate
Setting the mood can mean something different to each person. Maybe it means a cozy room with candles lit, a bubble bath, a sexy outfit, or some sensual music.
For some reason, setting the mood for sexual pleasure seems to be something that we reserve for partnered sex. Why not set the mood for your masturbation?
Even solo play can be enhanced by adding an element of effort and sensuality. Get comfortable in your space, make your surroundings lush and beautiful.
Dress up for yourself in something sexy and fun. Play a soundtrack that gets you in the mood.
Too often, when we are alone we get lazy and forget to do those little extras that make an experience memorable. You are just as worthy of pampering as any partner!
Putting in a little extra effort can make the experience of masturbation that much more pleasurable.
#3 Try a Toy
While getting comfortable with your own hands as tools of pleasure is key, sometimes it’s fun to mix it up.
Trying a toy can be a great way to enhance your pleasure and explore the unique sensations that they can provide.
Build up a small (or big!) repertoire of toys so that you can have a few to pick from depending on your mood. What hits the spot one day might not on another day, so it’s nice to have a few options available at the ready.
- For people with vaginas, a fun option might be something like the Emmeline Pleasure Wand by Coco de Mer. This toy is not only beautiful, but also provides powerful vibration. It’s completely waterproof for those times when setting the mood involves a nice soak in the tub or a leisurely shower.
- For people with penises, try something like the Apollo Max Reversible Penis Masturbator. Add a bit of water-based lube, insert penis into the chamber, and stroke away! The toy is reversible, so you can enjoy two different textures in one sleek package.
Double bonus: toys can be used solo or can be a fun addition to partnered play!
Curious for more tips to get in touch with your masturbation? Stay tuned for Part 2 of this blog series!