Back again to talk with you about ways to get in touch with your masturbation practice!
#4 Tease Yourself
One way to really turn on the volume on your masturbation is to try a technique called the ‘stop and go’ method.
This is essentially a way of teasing yourself slowly to build maximum tension so that when you do come, the sensation in that much more intense.
First, think of your pleasure on a 1 to 10 scale, 1 being a little arousal, and 10 being full on orgasm.
Next, to perform the technique, stimulate yourself until the point of a level 2 on the scale, then pause stimulation and breathe steadily for 10 seconds.
Continue stimulation again until you reach a level 3, then pause and breathe again. Though it may be tempting to just keep going, it is the restraint of this method that gives the ultimate payoff.
Continue stimulating and pausing until you reach the highest level you can handle, then go for the goal!
It may take practice to be able to go all the way up the scale, but the worst-case scenario for this is that you have an orgasm…which isn’t a bad thing!
You can always practice this technique going longer and longer, testing how far you can take it. Double bonus: this method can be used on or with a partner too!
#5 Address Partner Pressure
Oftentimes, people who are in a relationship feel pressure from their partner not to masturbate. This can cause us to feel shame about masturbation and to hide it so that we do not feel jealousy or frustration from our partner.
Some people have the notion that masturbation is a betrayal and that if you are in a relationship, you should be having sex only with your partner. Not so people!
Masturbation is a healthy and positive part of sexuality, and masturbating doesn’t mean you are going behind your partners back or being unfaithful. Check out other common masturbation myths here.
If you have a partner who makes you feel guilty about masturbation, try to talk to them and explain that this practice doesn’t take anything away from the sexual bond you share with them.
Let them know that it doesn’t mean you are any less attracted to them. In fact, it may actually enhance your overall sex life. You can even try mutual masturbation with your partner.
Partners should be encouraging and accepting of one another’s pleasure and should never make the other feel shame about enjoying their own body.
Making masturbation a priority is a gift you can give yourself that will show payoffs in your physical and mental well-being! Now get to it!