Lubricants are probably one of the most underrated intimacy products on the market as many know little about them or how to incorporate lube into their sex lives. We want to change that. Here’s a simple breakdown of the different kinds of lubes there are and how best to use them.
Know Your Lubricants
Water-based: Water is the main ingredient in water-based lubricant, so it’s great for those with sensitive skin, is easy to clean up, and compatible with all sex toys.
Silicone-based: You’ll find silicone-based lubricants to have a lovely silky feel against your skin, are usually hypoallergenic, and relatively unlikely to cause skin irritation and allergic reaction. Silicone lube is waterproof, so it’s great for underwater play and effortlessly washes away with soap and water.
Oil-based: Oil-based lubes also feels lovely on the skin because of its soft oily texture which goes on smooth, making it perfect for masturbation and massage. You can purchase oil based lubes and find it in the kitchen as well (coconut and olive oil).
Which Lubricant & When
- Water-based: With water as the main ingredient in water-based lubricant it’s not that useful for use in water situations such as the shower and other wet locations. It also tends to be short-lasting which is why it’s best for areas that naturally produce moisture like the vagina and not the anus.
- Silicone-based: Silicone lubricant can be used for vaginal intercourse and works wonderfully for anal sex. Silicone can be used with sex toys but not all toys. Hard material toys made of hard plastic, aluminum, ceramic, and steel, and natural substances such as granite, wood, and marble. It shouldn’t be paired with softer sex toys such as those made with silicone, jelly or CyberSkin as the silicone molecules react negatively and deteriorate those types of toys.
- Oil-based: Oil for intimacy can be tricky because it’s hard to clean up and likely to leave stains on your bed sheets and clothing. Oil also increases the risk of condom tears, increasing the risk of pregnancy and contracting STIs. Those things considered its best to use oil based lube for solo play and nonsexual contact with others such as body massages.
The Benefits of Lubricant
- First and foremost, understand that lubricant use of any kind during sex does not mean you or your partner is not turned on. Embrace it the same way an exciting new sex toy would be as both are intended to enhance the overall experience.
- Lube can better help you achieve orgasms because it can help alleviate dryness during intercourse and buffer the skin from friction irritation so going round after round right away is a possibility. It also makes the transition from one sexual position to another much more comfortable.
- Many lubes on the market today can warm or cool on contact, numb the area, and some claim to have tightening abilities. (*Be sure to check that the ingredients are body-safe)
- Spice up your oral sex routine by introducing flavored water-based lubricant. Not only will you benefit from the flavoring aspect, but it will also knock out dry mouth. (*Flavored lubricants are only suitable for oral sex and should not be used internally to avoid infections)
- Begin with a relaxing oil-based lubricant body massage. Stir the pot with a water-based flavored lube oral sex session that leads to intercourse, then make the switch to silicone lubricant for anal sex. A romantic cuddle and cleanup in the shower rounds out a perfect evening with lube.