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Sex for Seniors

Sex for Seniors

Every person deserves to feel confident, sexy, and sexually satisfied at any age. Although not talked about enough, sex for seniors and intimacy in later years is entirely natural, common, and great. Sex is a lifelong journey, and you never know where people are. Age does not determine experience.

Maybe you are seasoned at sex. There’s no mystery here; you’ve been doing it your whole life. You know what you like and don’t like and know how to communicate that with a partner. Maybe you are in a rut with your spouse after many years of having the same sex, and it’s time to switch things up. Or, maybe you lost your partner and feel ready to be intimate with someone again, but you feel out of your element.

No matter where you are, it’s never too late to explore and have some fun. Sex for seniors may be different from sex for the younger folk, but it can be just as fun and fulfilling, and you can benefit from the years of experience you’ve had. Just remember: you deserve to have satisfying sex.

Communication

Open communication is one of the very best habits to ensure a fun, healthy sex life. However, talking about sex can be embarrassing at any age. But it doesn’t have to be.

People are into so many different things. Never feel ashamed about what works for you or what doesn’t. When partners are honest and caring, they know how to satisfy each other and respect one another’s boundaries.

If something isn’t working, it’s easy to avoid. For example, if you or a partner is having trouble sustaining an erection, you might feel nervous about initiating that conversation. It’s best to talk about these issues when they come up… or don’t come up. See what I did there? A little humor can go a long way when talking about a sexual problem. Almost everyone has experienced a sexual problem at some point, so cut yourself some slack and approach these conversations head-on.

Use Protection

Keep in mind that you can get a sexually transmitted infection at any age. The rate of sexually transmitted infections among older people is higher than most groups. Using protection is so important.

Since the time of diaphragms, many different kinds of condoms have been introduced with various flavors, textures, and more. Experiment with different types of body-safe condoms or dental dams to find what works best for you and your partner.

Embrace Change

Sex isn’t about recreating past experiences, but creating new ones. Rather than denying your age, it’s best to embrace it and figure out what works for you now.

Sure, you might not have aggressive sex on the kitchen table, but you might be surprised by the new experiences you have. For example, as you get older, it might take longer to become fully aroused, which means more time for foreplay. You and your partner can really focus on making each other feel good. There is no rush to orgasm during sex for seniors, and this is a good thing.

If you have trouble sustaining an erection, try a condom that feels a bit tight around the base of the penis to help stay hard. A cock ring at the bottom of the penis can also help maintain firmness and extend sex for seniors with penises.

Don’t Be Afraid to Explore

New positions, some adventurous toys, lube – you’re never too old for that. There is no age cutoff for experimenting with sex.

If you are experiencing a sexual problem you’re unsure how to resolve, talk to your doctor. A doctor is a great resource to discuss changes your body might be going through and how to have pleasurable sex at any age. Again, sex is a lifelong journey, and challenges inevitably arise. With open communication, protection, and an open mind, sex only gets better.

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Vibrant Staff

The Vibrant Staff writers are a group of sex-positive cis women and queer folks employed by Vibrant. Our contributors are passionate about educational advocacy, sexual autonomy and freedom, healthy relationships, and sharing their experiences with you!

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The Vibrant Staff writers are a group of sex-positive cis women and queer folks employed by Vibrant. Our contributors are passionate about educational advocacy, sexual autonomy and freedom, healthy relationships, and sharing their experiences with you!

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