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Sex Myths Busted

Sex Myths Busted

There is a ton of incorrect information about sex out there, whether it be from porn, stories from friends, experiences with sex, or the movies. Because there is so much information about sex, it can be hard to distinguish fact from myth. There is no reason to ever feel embarrassed if you don’t know something about sex. Sex is complicated! Everyone is just trying to understand how it works, and that’s true at any age. The list below debunks some of the most common sex myths. Maybe you’ve heard some and already know they’re not true—great! Maybe you’ve been dying to find out! Either way, read on to separate fact from fiction.

1 – Penis Size Matters

Some say a larger penis makes for better sex, but this isn’t necessarily true.

For some, size does matter, and a larger penis can make penetrative sex feel more intense. Or maybe size matters in the opposite way: a larger penis can be uncomfortable. Generally, though, size isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. The connection between partners, whether physical or emotional, has more effect on sexual pleasure than the size or shape of any one body part.

Just like any other body part, penises come in all shapes and sizes. Partners who understand each other’s sexual pleasure and talk openly about sex can usually make it work with any size.

2 – Men Reach Sexual Peak in Their Teens; Women Peak in Their 30s

What does sexual peak mean to you? Maybe it means having sex often, trying new things in bed, or having more intimate sex with an ongoing partner. The fact is, every person’s definition of sexual peak is different, so there’s no way to generalize when anyone reaches their peak.

Sex is a lifelong personal journey. Theoretically, there should be no peak, and sex will just keep getting better with time and experience. Wherever you are in your journey is just right.

As long as you’re comfortable, staying safe and healthy, and having fun, does a sexual peak really matter?

3 – Women Orgasm Only From Clitoral Stimulation

As much as some would like, there isn’t one set of instructions for how to reach an orgasm. Many folks with vulvas do enjoy clitoral stimulation, but that’s not to say that it always leads to orgasm or that it’s the only way to orgasm.

Every individual is different – that’s true for all genders. People can orgasm from all types of sex and stimulation. And many other factors come into play, like a person’s mood, how connected they feel to their partner, what they ate that day (joking… maybe).

It is true that people with vulva’s orgasms are more particular than male orgasms. Clitoral stimulation can help reach an orgasm, so a more accurate statement is: many people with vulvas require some kind of consistent stimulation to achieve an orgasm.

4 – More Women Than Men Identify as Bisexual

Identifying as bisexual means different things to different people. For some, it might mean emotional attraction to both sexes. For others, it might mean physical attraction mostly to one sex, but some emotional attraction to another sex. And for some, it’s fluid and may change based on the day. Because sexuality is so deeply personal and, unfortunately, still stigmatized, there is no concrete way to tell if this myth is true.

We have an inkling where it started, though. Whether or not people are aware, their surroundings influence how they express their sexualities. Women can experiment with their sexuality with fewer social repercussions. Plenty of men likely identify as bisexual but may be less inclined to express it based on social pressures. Come on society, catch up already!

5 – Men Want Casual Sex; Women Want Relationships

Just like the last myth, this sex myth includes a (nonexistent, incorrect) gender binary and is not true. All people are different and at different points in their lives – everyone exists on a spectrum. Stereotypes and sex myths are not helpful.

Turns out most sex myths are really just generalizations about people. The best way to think about sex is with an open mind and an understanding that all people are different. You are unique – how sex works for you now is different than it was five years ago and different than how it will be five years from now. Approach sex with an appreciation of your own body and worth, and an appreciation of other people.

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Vibrant Staff

The Vibrant Staff writers are a group of sex-positive cis women and queer folks employed by Vibrant. Our contributors are passionate about educational advocacy, sexual autonomy and freedom, healthy relationships, and sharing their experiences with you!

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The Vibrant Staff writers are a group of sex-positive cis women and queer folks employed by Vibrant. Our contributors are passionate about educational advocacy, sexual autonomy and freedom, healthy relationships, and sharing their experiences with you!

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