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Toxic Relationship Quiz

Are You In A Toxic Relationship? Take This Quiz

Toxic Relationship

Relationships aren’t for the weak – but when you’re experiencing repeated and severe highs and lows, the healthy thing to do is evaluate if you’re in a toxic relationship. While hardships are a given in any relationship when the bad times start outweighing the good times the natural question always becomes: when should we call it quits?

In a world that touts monogamy and perpetual happy endings, it can be hard to pull the trigger on a toxic relationship, but certain telltale signs shouldn’t be ignored.

If you’re not sure whether or not your relationship is healthy, take this short, 5-question, quiz and get your answer:

1 – Are you totally dependent on your partner/are they dependent on you?

❏ Yes

❏ No

Dependency in a relationship is normal but you have to recognize your personal limits. If someone needs you to feel certain emotions, happiness, and fulfillment within their own selves, for example, the dependency can be an unhealthy one. Your partner should be a positive addition to your life, not your entire life – and vice versa!

2 – Do you often fantasize about what it would be like to be single again?

❏ Yes

❏ No

If you’ve been in a long-term relationship before you know there will come a time when you fantasize about all the possibilities that come with being single again. Becoming irritated with one another occasionally is par for the course, but when you’ve reached the point of daydreaming about singlehood every time your partner annoys you, then putting a pause on the relationship may be something you want to consider.

3 – Generally, does your relationship stress you out more than relax you?

❏ Yes

❏ No

Stress can be a killer, literally, and can create many health problems, such as high blood pressure, heart disease, obesity, and diabetes. Between personal finances, your career, car problems, family drama, neglected chores, and all the other daily stressors you have limited control over – you don’t need a significant other who adds to this list. If you find that your partner adds more stress to your life rather than helps you to eliminate stress, it might be time to make a change.

4 – Do you and your partner fight fairly?

❏ Yes

❏ No

Arguments are ugly, uncomfortable, and exhausting. Some arguing is inevitable in a relationship but there are rules to fighting with your spouse. Removing obvious no-no’s such physical abuse, what does a typical argument look like for you and your partner? Is there name-calling, belittling, intimidation, or emotional blackmail involved? If you answered yes to any of these, your argument style is unhealthy. It’s okay to disagree with one another, but that does not give either of you permission to attack each other with a goal of leaving emotional scars.

5 – Lastly, if the tables were turned and your BFF had the same relationship, would you be happy for them?

❏ Yes

❏ No

Toxic relationships can be hard to navigate as they tend to be foggy for those within them. We tend to believe we are strong enough to handle anything, especially us women, but we are quick to encourage others to know when to say enough is enough and mean it. When no one’s around to witness the inner workings of your relationship are the dynamics at play positive overall? Would you want your best friend/sister/niece to have a relationship similar to your own or would you push them towards the door quick, fast, and in a hurry?

Nine times out of ten, if a situation isn’t good enough for someone we care about, it isn’t worthy of ourselves either.


If you answered “Yes” to more than 3 of the questions you might be in a toxic relationship. Take time to assess if your relationship is making you happy and think about steps you need to take to prioritize your own well-being.
If you’ve tried talking to your partner, and the problems you have cannot be fixed, it might be time to start thinking about a breakup. Separations and breakups are hard but no one deserves to be unhappy – life is too short! Create your happiness today, not tomorrow, you deserve it and can do it.

For more Relationship Advice from seasoned love & sexuality experts visit our blog for juicy good reads for couples and sexy singles!

Amanda Sovago-Royal

Amanda is a Sex-Positive Blogger, Vlogger, and Professional Adult Novelties Reviewer for DirtyMilfNextDoor, a Youtube channel & sex blog she created to shamelessly discuss the realities of Sex, Kink, and Relationships for the millennial woman.

You can follow her work by subscribing to her YouTube Channel, and following her on Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest.

Amanda Sovago-Royal

Amanda is a Sex-Positive Blogger, Vlogger, and Professional Adult Novelties Reviewer for DirtyMilfNextDoor, a Youtube channel & sex blog she created to shamelessly discuss the realities of Sex, Kink, and Relationships for the millennial woman.

You can follow her work by subscribing to her YouTube Channel, and following her on Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest.

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