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A Little Self-Love Goes a Long Way

Self-love can mean so many things… there’s being mindful, practicing self-care, forgiveness, self-acceptance, self-pleasure, and so many more! What it really comes down to is taking time to appreciate yourself – and lucky for us, there are no shortage of ways to love yourself every single day! Best of all, it doesn’t matter who you are. where you are, or how much time you have, self-love is always possible. Let’s take a quick look at the best ways you can add a little self-care, self-acceptance, and self-pleasure into your life.


There are many ways you can practice self-care. The obvious ones are working out, eating well, and doing things you love, but the one we want to focus on here is taking time for yourself.

Taking time for yourself is a great way to recharge and remind yourself of who you are and what you love about yourself. When you do something you love, you feel rejuvenated and back to feeling like yourself. You don’t even have to be alone to take time for yourself, you just have to do something that doesn’t add stress, anxiety, or unhappiness to your day!

Putting yourself at the top of your priority list may seem a bit selfish at first, but the truth is, the happier you are, the happier your relationships will be. When it comes to taking time for yourself, you need to decide how much time is enough time. Do you need 15 minutes to yourself each day? What about an hour? Or perhaps you need two hours? There’s nothing wrong with setting aside time for yourself – so quit feeling guilty about it! In as little as 15 minutes you can finish several pages of your favorite book. An hour to yourself gives you enough time to hop in a relaxing bath, go for a short run, and even sip on a nice glass of wine.


Self-acceptance may be the hardest of all the self-love practices to master. For some, saying a mantra of “you are strong” or “you are worthy” is what it takes to begin the journey to self-acceptance. Others may go to therapy, repeat morning affirmations, or do things they’re good at to boost confidence.

But what if your self-acceptance also included loving your body? There are so many reasons to know your body well and accept it for everything it is. First of all, the body you have is the body you have. Of course there are things you can do to alter it, and that’s your decision, but loving your body exactly the way it is will help drastically with self-acceptance. Knowing your body does a million things for you (but let’s start with 3):

  1. It helps you make yourself feel good, literally and figuratively.
  2. It helps you know what’s normal for you and when something isn’t quite right.
  3. It helps you be able to tell partners what you like and don’t like – what works for you and doesn’t work for you.

Mirror therapy is an excellent way to improve your self-acceptance. Every morning before you head out for the day, stand in front of the mirror and look yourself in the eyes. Now say 10 positive things about yourself. While this may sound silly and simple, you will likely find it a bit difficult at first to actually look yourself straight in the eyes and talk to yourself. But after doing this several times, you will truly start to feel better about yourself and who you are as a person. You were made to accomplish great things, and it’s time you start believing it!

Another great way to improve your self-acceptance is by being generous with compliments. That’s right! Not only should you be complimenting yourself everyday, but you should also do your best to give away at least three compliments each day. Even if it’s a short and sweet compliment on Facebook to a friend – making others feel good about themselves is an effective way to make you feel better about your own self.


To be honest, this is our favorite, and for many, the easiest practice! Self-pleasure might mean just that: masturbating! It can also mean eating things you love, doing something that brings you great joy, or getting a rush from doing something exciting – but we’re going to go back to masturbating because… it’s more fun to talk about!!

Masturbation is one of the most pleasurable activities you can take part in. After all, you know better than anyone what turns you on. To make sure you are getting the most out of your masturbation sessions, consider these simple tips:

  1. Go very slow: Sure, if you’re running tight on time, then a quickie might be your only option, but if you have time to take it slow, you most definitely should! Right before you are about to orgasm stop what you’re doing and take a deep breath. Now, start all over again. The slower you go, the more intense the orgasm will be!
  2. Invest in body-safe toys: Visit your favorite sex toy store (or check out and splurge a bit on a few sex toys (the more the merrier, right?). Sex toys can do wonders for your orgasmic levels, especially if you buy ones that vibrate!

Vibrant Staff

The Vibrant Staff writers are a group of sex-positive women and queer folks employed by Vibrant. Our contributors are passionate about educational advocacy, sexual autonomy and freedom, healthy relationships, and sharing their experiences with you!

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Vibrant Staff

The Vibrant Staff writers are a group of sex-positive women and queer folks employed by Vibrant. Our contributors are passionate about educational advocacy, sexual autonomy and freedom, healthy relationships, and sharing their experiences with you!

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