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Why You Should Be Open About Your Sexual Fantasies

Why You Should Be Open About Your Sexual Fantasies

What’s your sexual fantasy? Maybe you want to dress up in a costume and role play with your lover? Maybe you dream of being tied up 50 shades of grey style? Perhaps you’d like to experiment with toys in the bedroom? Sexual fantasies come in all shapes and sizes. If you can think of it, someone has tried it! We all have fantasies, so why is it that so many of us are reluctant to embrace them? You could probably think of many reasons not to, but here’s a few reasons why you SHOULD be open about your sexual fantasies.

You’re not the only one…

No matter what turns you on and how obscure you may think it is, there will always be someone else who shares your same desires. Many people feel shame about their sexual fantasies because they feel like they are the only one who is turned on by things such as handcuffs, or saran wrap, or perhaps chocolate pudding. Many people worry that if they let others know about their sexual turn-ons that they will be judged. True, while perhaps some people will never understand your love of handcuffs, saran wrap, or chocolate pudding one thing that’s for certain is there’s someone out there who feels the exact same way! In days gone by a chocolate pudding enthusiast might be so fearful of being judged that they would only indulge their desires in secret, never letting another soul know for fear of what others might think. Nowadays all one need do is log onto the internet and within seconds you can find a whole community of chocolate pudding lovers. No longer is there a need to feel alone! The internet is a wonderful tool to explore your fantasies and connect with others who share your interests.

Own your uniqueness…

Every person on this planet is completely unique. Even twins who share identical DNA have very different personalities. We all have different experiences of this world that shape us into the individuals that we are currently. Instead of trying to fit into a social norm (who decides what that is anyways?) why not just be true to yourself? Your sexual fantasies are a part of your uniqueness. Own them! Being exactly the same as everyone else is boring. People are drawn to those individuals who are authentic and true to themselves. Don’t be afraid to let your unique personality show! Anyone who doesn’t like it probably isn’t worth knowing anyways.

Strengthen your bond with your partner…

Without honesty, there is no intimacy. It’s just not possible. If you are hiding a secret fantasy from your loved one you are missing out on an important opportunity to strengthen the bond that you two share. Letting your partner know what turns you on shows that you trust them and want to be your most authentic self with them sexually. It opens up a line of communication between you and your partner that will enhance your sex life as well as your relationship. It also gives you an opportunity to find out what fantasies they might have. Perhaps they have also been wanting to try something new and have been too timid to bring it up. You may even find that you have both been having the same fantasy and now you can actually make it come to life together!

Create a culture of acceptance and inspire others…

No one likes to be the first to step into the light, it’s scary, and rightfully so. However, when you come forward and share something personal about yourself not only are you being courageous, but you are inspiring others to be courageous as well. Not everyone can be an activist for change, some need to see others take the first step before they can muster the courage to follow. By letting your sexual fantasies be known you are helping to create a culture of acceptance that will inspire others to let their deepest desires be known. The more open and honest we are with each other the greater our understanding of human nature will become. This will help pioneer a new generation of happy, healthy, and sexually proud people!

Kendall Lambrecht

Erotic enthusiast. Future clinical sexologist. Culinary mastermind. Making the world a more beautiful, sexy, delicious place to be!

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Kendall Lambrecht

Erotic enthusiast. Future clinical sexologist. Culinary mastermind. Making the world a more beautiful, sexy, delicious place to be!

Follow her on
Instagram: @kendalllambrecht
Facebook: facebook.com/kendall.lambrecht

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